How to Heal after Loosing a Loved One
Everyone has their own way. It is your personal journey wherein you are completely allowed to be the way you want to be, to feel, think or say, just do whatever it takes you towards healing. The healthiest way to cope up with the demise of a loved one is to grieve with acceptance, acceptance of the truth.
One of the hardest times is when you lose someone you love. It wrenches our universe, disrupts our peace and nothing seems good thereafter. Oftentimes we are unable to register what just happened to us, to our family. Few even refuse to let the healing process begin by shutting themselves down completely. Gradually it starts hitting hard emotionally as well as physically.
Lets see how you can make it a little easier,
Everyone deals differently with the death of loved ones. Ones recipe to heal may not be of use to the other. Do not bother if people call you overreacting. You can not set an expiry date for the pain you are grieving through. Yes, it is absolutely OK to cry and sleep for a few nights.
Condolence messages also keep refreshing and reminding that such a thing happened. Take your own time to open up & get ready to talk. Gradually you will see yourself opening up about the death with friends, siblings or a total stranger. It doesn't means you are weak, it will show your acceptance of the truth over denial.
“Don’t Cry. Be strong.” Your relatives, friends and others will say this to you repeatedly. To stop them from saying these words, some of us start pretending to be okay, so that others in the family are not pained more to know your marathon of emotional catastrophe. But, by not showing the emotional dungeon you are caged in, you are not letting them help you to break it. Be unapologetically vulnerable and invite people to be around you.
Don't close the doors. Allow people to be there for you. Let someone be by your side when you ventilate your frustration out. Turned off lights, closed doors will push you in a black hole! It's not how healing should be.
Do not mask the pain with the drink. Put down the bottle and pick up your mobile. Call a friend.
Transport yourself to an alien place. A place which is ignorant about your grief. It helps in reviving the worth of life.
Isn’t the loss of the loved one an agonizing reminder that our life's way too small? So do what you love if you have still delayed it for very long. Keeping busy makes you happy only when you are doing things that you like.
Sometime later, cherish your beloved memories with your loved one. Instead of mourning on their death, celebrate their fun-filled life.
Give yourself as much time as you want to heal. And remember, there’s nothing going back to normal. Pain will not disappear. But that’s ok.
You are not alone.
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